Article published on LinkedIn.com:
October 26, 2023
Dealing with Change
never far away, whether it is breaking up with an ex, having a
best friend move away, facing the death of a relative, the
loss of a job, or a demotion, or living through disappointment
about something that once meant a great deal but that has not
turned out as hoped for.
for a changing world involves flexibility, strength of
self-purpose, and belief in one's own worth.
Life is full
of unexpected surprises; do not let this be a lesson you
refuse to learn. Death, loss, and strange situations will be a
part of your life, no matter how much you may try to shelter
or protect yourself from them. The major key to coping with
change is to accept the reality of change and its
Once you have
accepted the reality that you cannot change others and that
the only way they can change you is if you let them, then you
suddenly find yourself empowered.
a key element of change acceptance and change management. When
you feel empowered, in command, and not bothered by events but
conscious of a need to roll with the surrounding effects to
lessen their impact, it is easier to accept change.
If you are
grieving after a death, be it for a person or a pet, do not
let anyone tell you how long to grieve for. That decision is
yours, but your life cannot meander in sorrow forever.
However, it is
most clear that those who avoid grieving do end up worse off
and can sometimes experience breakdowns and be left with an
inability to cope at unexpected times. With grief for death,
there will always be a piece of your heart missing, but if you
accept this and are willing to keep the memories alive as best
you can for the rest of your life, this will help you reach
some acceptance of what has happened.
If you have
had job loss or some other non-depth-related personal loss you
still need time to mourn and to assuage your sadness and grief
over the loss of the thing that once filled a large part of
your life. Perhaps a small ending ceremony of some sort will
help to give you a sense of closure and allow you to move
but you do not need to be buffeted by it. Have a purpose in
life, no matter what it is, that serves as your own personal
anchor. While it is important to be open to change and to be
flexible as to the possibilities that change open up for you,
it is also important to remain true to yourself and the dreams
that you hold in life. This self-belief and your dreams serve
as your anchor.
life throws your way, these are the barometers by which you
can measure your progress in the world and how you are
reacting to change. Be prepared to question your methods of
getting to where you wish to go, but be less prepared to
change your destination if it means dismantling the person you
Look for the
opportunities that you can make use of when change occurs
rather than continuously viewing the change as a deep loss or
as something making you think nothing will ever be the same.
adage every cloud having a silver lining. There is a reason
for this saying - wise humans of the past knew well that
change could herald both fear and opportunity. Once the fog of
shock, despair, and anger passes, look for the opportunities
that exist in the change.
This 642-page book is the result of a four-year project
called Project Tomorrow. During the four-year period,
we followed more than 500 trainees, aged from 16 to
It is also the fruit of forty years of experience
acquired with local and international organizations
and companies and during consultancy, change
management, transition, and marketing services. For
more information go to:
About the Author
ISO Pour Tous
– Le manuel
d’information ISO – Le guide de préparation ISO – La
gestion du changement en affaires – La gestion de
projet d’affaires – Le
changement POUR TOUS –
Change Your Future,
Now! – Mon succès est votre succès –
My Success Is Your Success.
Germain Decelles, o.s.j.
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