Article published on LinkedIn.com: June 12, 2023
ON GRADUATION DAY DID YOU RECEIVE A GUIDE TO HELP YOU ADJUST
TO THE WORKPLACE?
Each of us is required to
take the necessary steps to discover what is out there in the
workplace and how we can adapt to all kinds of situations to
be effective in shaping our future.
You know a new graduate, a
friend coping with a career change, a colleague or an employee
having some trouble adapting, it could be for you a good
gesture to provide them with a tool to cope.
THE needs OF LIFE – motivation
UNDERSTANDING TEMPERAMENTS -
KNOWING YOURSELF - ATTITUDE -
- COMMITMENT TO
WORK - STRATEGIC SUCCESS - CULTIVATE A CREATIVE LIFE –
COMMUNICATION - THE
COGNITIVE BIAS -
PROBLEMS SOLVING -
– Humor -
THE VISION AND THE MISSION -
LEARN BASIC COMMON SENSE
- GOOD JUDGMENT -
BE RESPECTFUL - RELIGION AND
Personally, I didn't have a distinct reference
text to help me when I was young, so I built my evolution plan
as I went along, with the help of my father, employers, close
friends, my wife, my son, and mentors throughout my journey.
If you want to help someone to grow and progress in his life
as well as in his career, you obviously need to equip this
person with the skills and knowledge, to be a proactive person
in the face of threats and ready for the future, to achieve
and well-being depend on our ability to perceive, evaluate,
and control the effects of our actions to imagine and create
more desirable ways to achieve success in our lives.
I suggest that you take the time to look at « My Success Is
Your Success. » This book describes how to improve a
person ability to reach goals for success. Success is the only
part of our lives that we can achieve by what we do or don't
The secrets of success?
If you define a secret as simply an unknown fact or an
undiscovered detail of a fact you already know, then the «
secrets » to success abound.
On the other hand, if you define a secret as a magic bullet
that can guarantee success, that magic bullet or success
secret can only be yourself.
Your convictions, your actions, your personal, professional,
and relational qualities as well as your determination to
carry out your projects will ultimately determine your
Others can make your path to success easier or harder, but
they don't have the final say on whether you succeed in life.
Simple, we are all we really have. Any current possessions
could go away for a variety of reasons. The same is true with
any ongoing relationship.
If we define ourselves through our possessions or our
relationships, we will be devastated if they are lost.
Fundamental autonomy is therefore one of the keys to
While support from others is welcome, it is not guaranteed.
Self-confidence is another key to success, and it starts with
being your biggest « groupie. »
Others can influence or persuade you, but they cannot « make »
you act in a certain way without your permission.
Recognizing and using your ZONE of control, which is part of
overall self-control, empowers you to take charge of your
actions, reactions, emotions, and attitude to the best of your
Only then will you be able to take control of each situation.
What is success?
Achieving wealth, fame, a perfect body, respect from our peers
and our community, or winning a marathon could be one of those
things, because success irretrievably includes achievement.
However, truly satisfying success also includes a
degree of inner peace, joy, and self-fulfillment in terms of
the dreams you can contemplate and the goals you set for
Therefore, success could be defined as an accomplishment that
involves personal development and growth, as defined by the
But remember that what one person defines as
personal achievement, growth, or development may mean nothing
to another person.
Real and lasting success comes from within. It is not
something « far away » that must be found.
It is something that we create ourselves by developing our
basic life skills to their full potential and putting those
skills into action.
Now the question that always comes up, is there a secret to
The answer is yes and no. It's always fun to dream up magical
and even mystical success secrets that guarantee instant
Many people dream of how they could change the world if they
could just win the lottery.
Realistically, a secret could be defined as a fact we haven't
discovered yet, or an exciting new detail of a fact we already
In this sense, the secrets of success, most certainly exist
and may well lead to increased success and happiness.
This is especially true in areas such as autonomy,
self-control, and self-esteem.
How do you measure success?
Just as the meaning of success is subjective, so is how we
measure success. Developing strong foundational skills helps
us create realistic benchmarks to measure personal success.
Remember that other people's point of view really doesn't
matter. The most important thing for you is to know if you
have the feeling of wanting to succeed or not.
Why are the basic skills important?
Let's first define basic life skills. They could also be
called life management skills. These are the strengths and
skills that make us unique as individuals.
These skills take us from one moment in our lives to another.
Indeed, they are the ones who help us survive and thrive by
increasing our self-esteem and confidence.
Fundamental life skills help us be resilient and allow us to
bounce back from difficult situations.
If we are not resilient, we cannot survive. If we truly
believe that we cannot overcome our current situation, we
might stop trying and give up altogether.
Strengthening skills not only gives hope for the future, but
also increases the chances of success.
Seeing ourselves as strong, confident individuals allows us to
see mistakes and setbacks, no matter how small, as challenges,
Practicing life skills gives us more control over our lives
and our future.
They allow us to improve our relationships and provide a solid
foundation for overcoming challenges, for example, managing
our anger during an argument or conflict, dressing
appropriately to speak in a group.
In order to assess the first step to achieving success, you
need to assess your current strengths.
There is also the importance of overcoming current obstacles
to personal growth.
Then, determine what additional skills will be needed to
develop your life plan.
This plan will be used to put your old and new skills into
To get started, provide copies of « My success is your
The book through questions, quotes and
reflections provides the necessary elements to explore all
about motivation so to shape your success and help those
around you do the same. Remember that success is all about
YOURSELF AND PROVIDE COPIES OF
SUCCESS IS YOUR SUCCESS. »
This book is the result of forty years
of experience acquired with local and international
organizations and companies and during consultancy,
change management, transition and marketing services.
personal development book was published by WebTech
Publishing and is available online in English, North
American French and European versions. For more
information and to view the flip book, visit
About the Author
ISO Pour Tous
– Le manuel
d’information ISO – Le guide de préparation ISO – La
gestion du changement en affaires – La gestion de
projet d’affaires – Le
changement POUR TOUS –
Change your future,
now! – Mon succès est votre succès.
Germain Decelles, o.s.j.
WebTech Management et Publication Incorpored