Article published on Feb. 4, 2024


Mon succès est votre succès


Life is full of choices. Some are easy, like, what should we eat for dinner, and others, which have more consequences, for example, choosing a career.

No matter how important a decision is, good decision-making skills come in handy in life, especially if you're feeling undecided about something and feeling discouraged.

People make decisions throughout their day, most of which are simple and don't require much thought.

However, when situations are more complicated and have longer-term repercussions, it is easy to feel uncertain or hesitant.

Facing a difficult decision, it is normal to feel overwhelmed, stressed, or anxious, nervous, pressured, confused, distracted, tired.

Because indecision can have a negative impact on how you feel, it's important to learn strategies for making positive decisions in difficult situations.

Although you can't guarantee the outcome of a decision until you make it, you can at least know that you've thought about it very carefully.

Here are some tips to help you in your decision-making process:

1.     Don't let stress get the better of you: it's easy to feel stressed and anxious when faced with a tough choice. You may tend to rush decisions without thinking about them or avoid making a decision because stress has discouraged you.


If you're feeling anxious about a decision, try to manage your stress so that it doesn't cloud your thinking. To do this, go for a walk or go out with friends.


2.     Give yourself some time, if possible: it's hard to think clearly under pressure, and sometimes your first idea isn't always the best one.


Give yourself the chance to sit on a problem for a while, so you can work through your options and feel confident about the course of action you choose.


3.     Weigh the pros and cons: when faced with an important decision, we sometimes lose sight of the big picture. Write a list of the pros and cons of each course of action, then compare them.


Sometimes the downsides aren't as bad as we imagine them to be, or the upsides can make your options more obvious.


4.     Think about your goals and values: it is important to be true to ourselves and what we value in life.


When you factor into a decision on the things that are important to you, the best option may become apparent. Either way, you're more likely to end up with a result that works for you.


5.     Consider all the possibilities: making a decision can lead to several different outcomes and not all of them are necessarily obvious.


When considering each option, don't only list the positives and negatives; write down all the likely consequences.


6.     Talk about it: it can be helpful to get another person's perspective on your issue, especially if they've faced a similar decision in their own life.


7.     Note: If you feel as if you're on an emotional roller coaster, it can be helpful to keep track of your decision-making process and feelings by writing them down.


8.     Plan how you will tell others: if you think someone may have a bad response to your decision, consider what their reaction is likely to be. Put yourself in their shoes to help you find a good way to handle the situation.


9.     Rethink your possibilities: if you're under a lot of pressure on a decision, or if there are new factors to consider, re-examine your options. You might decide that your initial decision be still the best, but you give yourself the option to change course.


If a decision no longer seems appropriate to you, repeat the steps to find a better solution.

If you are going through a difficult time:

If you're feeling overwhelmed by negative feelings because you're facing a tough decision, it's important to take care of yourself. Take time to relax or do something you enjoy.

If you find that your indecision about a situation is affecting the way you live day to day, it's a good idea to talk to someone you trust or see a counselor. They will be able to help you through the decision-making process and guide you through different strategies.

There are far more details to assimilate and cannot be expended in a simple article. I suggest that you explore chapter 9 of the book « My success is your success. »

Your smile has the power to light up a room and connect with people without saying a single word. They say a picture is worth a thousand words, but I like to say a smile is worth a thousand words. Happiness, optimism, and love to name a few.


Many things can be resolved with a smile. You can break down barriers, automatically put someone at ease, express your cheerful mood, convey confidence, and thousands of other actions, feelings, and emotions.


Not only can a smile improve your mood and that of those around you, but it also increases your likability and has tremendous health benefits.


Many see smiling simply as an involuntary response to things that bring you joy or make you laugh.


While this is certainly true, it overlooks an important point: smiling can be a conscious and intentional choice.


Whether your smile is genuine or not, it can affect your body and mind in a variety of positive ways, providing benefits for your health, your mood, and even the mood of those around you.


1.     Smiling helps you live longer: perhaps the most compelling reason to smile is that it can lengthen your overall lifespan. Overall, happy people seem to enjoy better health and longevity.


Maintaining a happy and positive mood can be an important part of a healthy lifestyle.


2.     Smiling reduces stress: stress can permeate our entire being and it can really show on our faces. Smiling not only helps prevent us from looking tired, exhausted, and overwhelmed, not only it can actually help reduce stress.


Believe it or not, smiling can reduce stress even if you don't feel like smiling or even if you fake it with an insincere smile.


When you're stressed, take time to smile. You and those around you will reap the benefits.


3.     A smile lifts the mood: next time you're feeling down, try smiling. Chances are your mood will improve.


The physical act of smiling actually activates pathways in your brain that influence your emotional state, which means that by adopting a happy facial expression, you can « trigger » your mind into a state of happiness.


This is true whether your smile is real or not. Think of smiling as a natural antidepressant.


4.     Smiling is contagious: how many times have you heard that a smile has the power to light up the room?


While it's certainly a beautiful sentiment, it contains a hint of truth. Smiling not only has the ability to uplift your mood, but it can also change other people's moods for the better.


Your brain automatically notices and interprets other people's facial expressions and sometimes you can even imitate them.


This means you might notice someone else's smile and unknowingly smile at you.


Yes, it's scientifically proven that smiling is contagious.


5.     Smiling stimulates the immune system: smiling can also improve your overall health by helping your immune system work more efficiently.


It is believed that when you smile, immune function improves because you are more relaxed due to the release of certain neurotransmitters.


6.     Smiling can lower blood pressure: smiling could have a beneficial impact on your blood pressure.


Laughter specifically appears to lower blood pressure, after causing an initial increase in heart rate and breathing.


7.     Smiling decrease pain: studies have shown that smiling releases endorphins, other natural pain relievers, and serotonin.


Together, these brain chemicals make us feel great, from, head to toe.


Not only do they improve your mood, but they also relax your body and reduce physical pain. Smiling is natural medicine.


8.     Smiling makes you attractive: we are naturally drawn, to smiling people.


While harsher or negative, facial expressions like frowns and grimaces work in the opposite direction, effectively repelling people, smiling is seen as more attractive, and people may even assume you have more positive personality traits, if you smile.


Not only smiling can make you more attractive, not only it can also make you look younger.


The muscles we use to smile also lift the face making a person look younger.


So instead of opting for a facelift, try smiling throughout the day, you'll look younger and feel better.


9.     A smile suggests success: research has shown that people who smile regularly appear more confident are more likely to be promoted, and more likely to be approached.

Try to smile at meetings and business appointments. You might find that people react differently to you.

Remember that smiling can influence your feelings of positivity, even if it seems unnatural or forced.

Whether your smile is genuine or not, it always sends the message that life is beautiful to your brain and, ultimately, to the rest of your body!

There are far more details to assimilate and cannot be expended in a simple article. I suggest that you explore chapter 10 of the book « My success is your success. »

How someone approaches ethics is fundamentally tied, to whom they are as a person. If a person has good morals, it is because of his virtues and his ethics.

Whether you are a parent, spouse, student, small business owner, worker, civil servant, politician, or professional such as a doctor, engineer, lawyer, good character is essential to successful relationships.

To understand what constitutes a moral character, you must understand the meaning of ethics, which involves moral principles or values.

The decisions you make on a daily basis can have a positive or negative impact on many people.

To develop good moral character, an individual must analyze the consequences of exercising bad moral character and perform actions that are ethically correct.

If there is no trust between you and your family, at work or socially, miscommunication, dishonesty, conflicts can arise. An untrustworthy person keeps you in doubt while a trustworthy person reassures you.

For example, if a person lies about a particular situation, it puts you on your guard and soon you find yourself doubting everything they say. Because of his dishonesty, you are now questioning his moral character.

This also applies to how you treat others. If someone doesn't trust you, they probably won't, for example, commit to doing business with you.

If you demonstrate a sound moral character towards your relationships and treat them with respect, you are likely to retain their respect and high regard. The people who talk to you should also have these traits. For example, if your ethics are sound, but an employee disrespect or lies to your customers, it will be difficult to build customer loyalty.

Specifically, getting customers through decent prices and quality products can be easy, but how you serve those customers will determine whether you'll retain them. This also applies to employees, your family, and friends. If you treat them well, they are more likely to stay with you.

Individuals with a strong moral character have a high degree of certainty about their actions. They have, in mind, a clearly recognized objective and the methods necessary to achieve these objectives. Anxiety and nervousness are concepts that are foreign to them.

Moreover, people with a strong moral character chart their own path to success and never waste time contemplating unnecessary topics. Such individuals do not invent excuses to cover their backs.

A strong moral character is also instrumental in developing effective leadership qualities. They are visionary with a « can do » attitude.

They tackle the impossible, face problems and obstacles head-on, and make decisions that position them successfully for the future.

Humility is another trait possessed by people with strong moral character. They put aside their egos and self-interests and strive to work in ways that achieve the highest good for all.

Even if they fail or partially succeed in their endeavor, they are not deterred from achieving their goals and instead pursue them with even greater vigor.

People with strong moral character also become positive role models for others. They set the benchmark for excellence and their lives become an inspiration to others.

This is so because those who form a strong moral character conscientiously adhere to moral values through their actions and personal conduct and do not resort to a pompous and contrived style.

Simply put, moral character is perhaps best described as the set of dispositions or characteristics of a person that play a role in how the person, morally speaking, behaves. Moral character is therefore the edifice on which an individual's personal identity rests.

It is our moral character that determines who we are and what actions we take.

You might wonder why it's not always easy to admit a mistake, to persevere in difficult times, or to keep every promise you make. It is not always comfortable to convey the hard truth or to defend one's convictions.

In the short term, it may not be beneficial to distance yourself from a questionable relationship. But, in the long run, doing the right thing is the clear path to success and happiness. Morality matters!

There are far more details to assimilate and cannot be expended in a simple article. I suggest that you explore chapter 12 of the book « My success is your success. »


Mon succès est votre succès

This book is the result of forty years of experience acquired with local and international organizations and companies and during consultancy, change management, transition and marketing services.

This 404-page personal development book was published by WebTech Publishing and is available online in English, North American French and European versions. For more information and to view the flip book, visit webtechPublishing.

About the Author

In addition to writing, Germain Decelles acts as Change Management Strategist. He has over 40 years of business and consultation experience with local and international markets, including sectors such as retail trade, distribution, information technology and communications, transportation, manufacturing, financial services, and government organizations.

Other publications: ISO Pour Tous – Le manuel d’information ISO – Le guide de préparation ISO – La gestion du changement en affaires – La gestion de projet d’affaires – Le changement POUR TOUS Change your future, now! – Mon succès est votre succès.

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