b"Chapter 3 It's hard, but overcoming challenges and problems help you grow. When you give up before you've tried hard, you may not learn to make different choices in the future.2.You put off until the following day: Have you ever found yourself stalled or stuck in the face of an important task?You are far from the only one in this case. You've prepped, done all your research, and sat down to get started, only to find you just can't get started. Your motivation is completely gone. So, you avoid the task of cleaning out the fridge, organizing your junk drawer or starting a movie marathon.Putting off a task or eventcan happen forno apparent reason, butit usuallyhasoneormoreunderlyingcauses,suchasyoufeel overwhelmed with what you need to do, you have trouble managing your time, you doubt your abilities or skills.3.You seek to argue: you can subtly sabotage yourself to damage your relationships in many ways when you seek the argument unnecessarily.Maybe you're always up for arguing, even over things that don't really matter, like who picked the last restaurant you went to. Or you do things to provoke reactions, like leaving a mess in the kitchen or deliberately forgetting important dates.On the other hand, you could easily get offended or take things personally whether they are directed at you or not. Or maybe you find it hard to talk about your feelings, especially when you'reupset.Thus,youresorttogrumblingorevenmischievous aggression instead of more effective methods of communication.4.You meet people who are not suitable for you: self-sabotaging behaviors often appear in relationships. Meeting people who don't tick all your boxes is a common type of relationship self-sabotage. You could:Keepdatingthesametypeofpersonevenifyourrelationship continues to end badly. 104Germain Decelles"