b"Chapter 8 3.Why do people manipulate? Peoplecanbemanipulativebecauseoftheirownhurt,pain,or immaturity. They tend to react with anxiety rather than being preoccupied with the particular situation.They lack the relationship skills necessary for healthy interactions. They neverlearnedordeniedself-awareness,humility,empathy,anda willingness to take responsibility for their own actions. Manipulation is the only way they know to relate to others.Then there are those who rely on others to fix things, pay for them, or cover them so they don't have to be responsible. Inthissense,somepeoplehaveabehavioraldisorderandenjoy manipulating others, even to the point of hurting them.A conduct disorder is characterized by socially undesirable conduct, such aspoorimpulsecontroloraninabilitytomaintaincloseemotional relationships, and the absence of anxiety or guilt.Manipulative people may have different reasons behind their actions, but they generally fall into three basic categories or styles:Master: these people pose as the one in charge and it's up to you to do whatever they want no questions asked because, they say, it's for your good. Theytendtobepushyandeasilyangered.Thisiswhatwecan commonly call brutes. Force is their primary tactic, but they can also coax you into submission with a mesmerizing charm.Savior,facilitator,messiah:thesepeoplehavedonesomethingfor you, and it is believed that because theysavedyou from anything, you owe them a debt of gratitude forever and you should do things their way.Tomakeyoufeelguiltyandbendtotheirwill,theyusuallyuse comments followed by reminders of the things they have done for you. And like the master, the savior personality could also benefit from the phraseIt's for your own good. Victim: these people are often overlooked as manipulative because they are poor me.These pseudo-victims know there's a lotof power in appearing helpless.250Germain Decelles"