b"HOW TO ACHIEVE WELLNESS Even subtle losses in life can trigger feelings of grief. For example, you might be grieving after leaving home, upon graduation, or a job change.Whatever your loss is personal to you, so don't be ashamed of what you're going through or believe it's somehow appropriate to grieve some things. If the person, animal, relationship, or situation was important to you, it is normal to grieve the loss you are experiencing.Whatever the cause of your grief, there are healthy ways to deal with the pain that, over time, can lessen your sadness and help you come to terms with your loss, find new meaning, and eventually move on. A.The approach: Grieving is a highly personal experience. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. How you grieve depends on many factors, including your personality and coping style, your life experience, your faith, and how important the loss is to you.Of course, the grieving process takes time. Healing takes place gradually and cannot be forced or rushed. There is nonormaltime for mourning. Some people start to feel better after a few weeks or months.Forothers,thegrievingprocessismeasuredinyears.Whateveryour grieving experience, it's important to be patient with yourself and allow the process to unfold naturally.B.Myths and realities: 1.Myth: The pain will go away faster if you ignore it. Reality: Trying to ignore your pain or prevent it from happening will only make it worse in the long run. For true healing, it is necessary to confront your grief and actively deal with it.2.Myth:It is important to bestrongin the face of loss. Reality: Feeling sad, scared, or lonely is a normal reaction to loss. Crying doesn't mean you're weak. You don't need toprotectyour family or friends by showing courage. Showing your true feelings can help them as well as you.3.Myth: If you're not crying, it means you're not sorry for the loss. Reality: Crying is a normal response to sadness, but it's not the only one. Those who don't cry can feel pain just as deeply as anyone else. They may just have other ways to show it. Germain Decelles323"