b"DECISION-MAKING MEANDERS Here's how to do it peacefully and productively:1.Ask yourself, is this worth mentioning? The first thing you should do is ask yourself if the issue is worth reporting. Ifyouanswerthisquestioninastateofsadnessoranger,thenthe answer will almost always be yes.Give yourself some time to experience your initial emotional reaction, and in doing so, make sure you have all the information and that it is reliable and truthful.You never want to get into a confrontation with hasty accusations. The confronted person will immediately withdraw into a state of defense, and you will move away from possible common ground.If someone has done something to you directly, like saying something that offendedyou,andyouhavealltheinformationyouneed,justask yourself, should I let it go?Or, will I feel better if I confront about this?If the answer to the second question is yes, then you should proceed to the next step.2.Picktherightmoment:confrontingsomeoneshouldalwaysbedone privately and never in front of people who are not involved. Not only is this very unpleasant, but it makes other people extremely uncomfortable.Also, don't do it in a place where you might be interrupted. Confronting someone privately allows attention to be focused on the issue at hand withoutinterruption, embarrassment, or interference from someonenot involved.Depending on the seriousness of the situation, you can choose to do so by SMS or email. But keep in mind that tone, meaning, etc. can be easily misinterpretedwhentherearenonon-verbalquestionsorinstant clarification when the confrontation is in person.Also, it may take longer to settle, when constantly typing answers back and forth. For best results, muster up the courage and do it in person.3.Choosethebestintroduction:itwillsetthetonefortheconversation. Thinkabouthowyouwouldlikesomeonetoconfrontyou.Here,one should not think of anger-induced rage.Germain Decelles295"