b"YOUR SUCCESS IS BASED ON COMMON SENSE But those who are considered wise, reverse this equation, and make the process,anendinitself,thisisallaboutmindfulness,thesecretto enlightenment.Instead of focusing on the outcome, focus your attention and energy on the process itself, let go of expectations.By doing this, you are able to stay focused on the present, rather than living in the future, the possible outcome. Not only is the present where life is, not only the current process is the only thing you can control, say the wise. The result is out of your reach, it is simply the future.Those who only focus on the outcome often feel frustrated or pushed. They develop tunnel vision that erases what is happening now. They lose sight of the day-to-day pleasures of managing their lives and dislike the process of action itself.Instead,theyeasilyendupmeasuringtheirhappinessbymeasuring themselves against others and what others say about them, and in doing so, they give up their power and self-esteem.4.Listen to the changes in yourself: if you're driven and results-focused, if life is a forced march from one goal to another, not only can you miss out onwhat'sgoodineverydaylife,butyou'realsomissingoutonthose subtle changes that naturally evolve naturally within you.What is often seen in people who take this forced march approach is depressionoreventualcrisis.Theysuddenlyrealizethattoomuchof themselves, has been compromised and left by the wayside, that their life is one-dimensional, all because those inner voices have been drowned out by their myopic focus or fear of others.The obvious antidote is to periodically slow down, take stock of the state ofyourlife,payattentiontothosesilentinnervoicestellingyouyour needs are changing, and then have the courage to speak up.5.Learn from your mistakes: at the heart of the problems are lessons to be learned. Once you learn the lesson the problem is trying to teach that you shouldn't rant at your boss or your partner that you should check the oil in your car, the problem goes away. If you don't, the problem keeps popping up.Older people and especially wise people generally have an easier time managing their lives because life is a process of eliminating problems.Germain Decelles395"