b"FACILITATE POSITIVE EXCHANGES 3.Dealingwithproblems:menliketheirabilitiestoberecognizedand appreciated and hate to have them looked down upon or ignored. Women like to have their feelings.Whenfacedwithdifficultissues,menbecomenon-communicative,so theycanfindthebestwaytohelpthemselves,whilewomenbecome communicative, so that others can find the best way to help them.Men like to demonstrate their abilities by allowing them to solve problems without interference. Women like to show their feelings by being allowed to relate issues without interference.When men communicate, they like to cut to the chase and generally only want to listen if they determine there is something in the conversation to discuss. Women like to talk for fun and are happy to listen unconditionally.A man's instinct is to take care of himself, even if it means sacrificing others.Awoman'sinstinctistocareforothers,evenifthatmeans sacrificing herself.In a relationship, a man must learn to take care of his partner rather than sacrificing his needs in favor of hers, and a woman must learn to be cared for by her partner rather than sacrificing her own needs in favor of hers, to so that everyone's needs are met.Ifsuccessful,bothwins,unliketheirinstinctivebehaviorswhereone person benefits from another's loss.It takes work, because if either partner feels that their relationship efforts aren't succeeding in pleasing their partner, they may feel hurt and decide to revert to their instinctual behavior.Unfortunately, this then causes the other partner to do the same and the relationship inevitably falls apart.In a relationship, a man needs to feel that his attentions are needed and a woman needs to feel that her needs are taken care of.To achieve this, a man must express his desire to have his needs met and his dignity to receive his care, and a woman must express her desire for his care and her dignity to have his needs met.Both must remember to appreciate, accept, and forgive the other, and avoid blaming them when they fail. Germain Decelles173"