b"Chapter 12 Here is a list of both the characteristics and the stages of its realization.1.Be honest with yourself: surely, a simple statement, but in reality, more complicated than it seems. In fact, to reach the state of wisdom, there are a few steps to consider.One is to have some level of self-awareness, to realize and be able to define one's emotions, to no one's values, one's own priorities of what is important in life and what it means to be agoodperson.It'salsoknowingwhatyouwant,beingabletouseyourinstinctive reactions and instincts, rather than the rules in your head, to let you know what you need.And if that's not enough, the next step is to use that self-awareness as the basis for realizing when you're making a mistake and admitting that you did, taking full responsibility for your decisions and actions, rather than to blame others.2.Be honest with others: honesty with yourself is the basis for being honest with others. To be honest with others is to reveal yourself, and for that you obviously need to be able to articulate what that self is.Many people are able to take the first step, but then encounter a bigger hurdle.Eveniftheyknowwhattheythinkandbelieve,theycannot intervene and speak out.Instead, they don't feel safe, they worry about other people's reactions, and so they sugarcoat their complaints to their co-workers, they bite their tongues not telling their partner what is bothering them or what they want them to change. They just hold back.The danger is that you start to feel isolated because no one really knows you. The issues that bother you come back over time, leading to outbursts or depression.The antidote is to replace your old coping style, then develop the courage to step up even if your gut tells you to quit.3.Focusontheprocessratherthantheresult:Whilethefirsttwo suggestions are about honest dialogue with yourself and others, this step is more about your behaviors and how you approach work.The issue obviously concerns the result, the goal, the end. We tend to think of the process as just a means to that end. 394Germain Decelles"