b"Chapter 12 They have learned enough lessons from them that only a smaller batch remains.Where it's easy to get stuck it is not taking this approach. Instead, you see lifeorothersasattackingyou,blamingyou,feelingliketheperpetual victim, and so instead of learning the lesson the problem can teach you are still left with the same problem either that you can't trust other people, that they want to hurt you, that life is unfair.Or you don't blame others, but rather blame yourself and see mistakes not as lessons, but as endless sources of regret, guilt, self-flagellation. This way of thinking allows you to live forever in the past, which in turn blackensthepresent,inaddition,thisabuseofyourselfdestroysself-esteem and leads to depression.6.The power of time itself: or the ability to step back, to put what seems like bigissuesandeventsintoperspective,tosortoutprioritiessothat everything doesn't seem so important and overwhelming. It is also about realizing that what seems so important today, this month, this year is subject to change over time, because whether you like it or not, you will change, because of the power of time itself.7.Believethatyouhaveacontributiontomake:adefiningexistential problemthatweallhavetograpplewithinourownwayismylife purpose. Without a sense of purpose, life is just a thing to go through, a mere drudgery, a treadmill you walk on forever until you die. For example, your goal might be to shape a child's life, as well as you can, to make a small difference in your community, to start a business that will change millions of people.Butwhat it isdoesn't really matter. What matters is having something. And the starting point for having that something is having blind faith, a raw belief that you actually have a purpose, that there is something you are here for, that you have unique talents that can make an impact, no matter how big or small, on others and on the world.8.Be kind to others: yes, it sounds like the platitude that everyone knows. But what's behind it isn't just how you treat others, but also how you see the world.396Germain Decelles"