b"DISCOVERING YOURSELF AS TO BETTER UNDERSTAND OTHERS8.You often have last-minute headaches, stomach aches, or other physical symptoms that keep you from finishing your preparation. 9.You are often distracted by tasks that prevent you from completing your preparation and which, in hindsight, were not as urgent as they seemed at the time. 10.You tend to procrastinate and run out of time to complete your preparation properly.You may want to investigate further through further reading on this topic or speaking to a mental health professional.What to do when you fear failure? Themainproblemwithfearoffailureisthatittendstooperateatan unconscious level.Forexample,youmightthinkit'sessentialtofinishwritingyourmonth-end reportbecauseyoupromisedtosenditbytheendoftheweekend,even though you're also on the point of completing a sale that will positively affect this month-end report.Tohelpyouovercomeandconquerfailure,itisimportanttobewillingto believe that failure makes you feel both fear and shame. Also, finding people you trust with whom you can discuss your feelings will help.Bringing these feelings to the surface can prevent you from expressing them through unconscious efforts. Getting comfort from people, you trust can boost your sense of self-esteem while minimizing the risk of disappointing them.Also, another good way is to focus on the aspects under your control. Identify the aspects of the task or preparation that you have control over and focus on those.Think about ways to reframe aspects of the task that seem out of your control so that you can regain control.Self-sabotaging behaviors can also arise from your need to control a situation. When you are in control, you may feel safe, strong, and ready to face anything that comes your way.Certain types of self-sabotage provide this sense of control. What you're doing may not be good for your mental health or your relationships, but it helps you stay in control when you're feeling vulnerable.Germain Decelles87"