b"DISCOVERING YOURSELF AS TO BETTER UNDERSTAND OTHERS Itcanevenbeaboutmakingtheotherperson,feelbetterabout themselves, although this has been proven to be more of a feminine trait, whereas men are more likely to lie to feel better. While it's a good policy to try to be honest as often as possible, being completelyhonestcansometimesenduphurtingpeople'sfeelingsor causing problems.However, it's when bigger lies start in an important relationship, whether it's with a partner, close friend, or family member, that things can start to fall apart quite quickly.Lies can also be a big problem in business situations and professional environments.We're normally pretty good at naturally spotting the signs of lying, but we put those instincts aside and convince ourselves we've been wrong.If you're worried that someone is trying to cheat on you, here are some signs you can watch for that will confirm they're not being honest with you:a.They begin to fidget: when we lie, we get nervous, no matter how many times a day we do it.Nervousenergycanbedetectedwhensomeoneplayswiththeir hair,fidgetswiththeirfeet,tapstheirfingersonthetable,or suddenly moves in their chair. This is because he subconsciously prepares to run away in case their lies are discovered.b.They repeat themselves: a great way to tell if someone is telling lies is for the liar to repeat what they've already said while adding a lot more detail than you asked for. In his desperation to prove to you that he is telling the truth, he will go too far.A good test is to stay quiet longer than usual to see if he keeps talking. Thus, long silences will make it uncomfortable. Your silence will make them think you don't believe them, so they'll try harder to convince you.Repeating what he has already said is a sign that he is trying to fill thetimewhileheistryingtoupdatehislieinhisheadorjust embellish his story further. Germain Decelles75"