b"A QUESTION OF ATTITUDE Try to make things work with a partner who has very different goals for the future. Staying in a relationship that leads nowhere.You may be monogamous, but you continue to develop attractions for non-monogamous people. You try non-monogamy more than once but end up getting frustrated and hurt each time. Or,youwantkids,butyourpartnerdoesn't.Butyouremaininthe relationship secretly hoping that your partner will change their mind.By continually repeating the same aspirations, you prevent yourself from finding someone who is a better match in the long term, whether in your private life, at work and in society.5.You have difficulty expressing your needs: if you find it difficult to speak for yourself, you may find it difficult to meet all of your needs.Itcanhappeninfamilysituations,amongfriends,atwork,inromantic relationships, in everyday interactions.Imagine standing in line at the supermarket with a sandwich when someone with a cart full of groceries cuts in front of you. You're in a rush to get back to work, but you can't bring yourself to say anything. Youletthemgoandfoundyourselflateforameetingyoureally couldn't afford to miss.6.You belittle yourself: people often set much higher standards for themselves than they do for others. When you don't meet these standards, you can give yourself some pretty harsh feedback.I can't do anything right! I won't make it so why should I care? I really failed! I'm horrible at this!Whetheryoucriticizeyourselfinfrontofothersorhaveahabitof speaking negatively about yourself, the same can happen because your words can eventually be taken as the truth.Believing these reviews can foster a destructive attitude and prevent you from wanting to try again. In the long run, you might give up before you even start. Germain Decelles105"