b"Chapter 5 At times when women are sinking into themselves, they can help their partners, not worry too much or take it personally by providing a brief reassurance that it is not their partner's fault. Menshouldresistthetemptationtotrytoprematurelystraightentheir partner out or criticize her for this natural behavior.Men claim the right to be free from time to time. Women ask for the right to be heard from time to time. When a man feels free, he finds it easier to support a woman's need to be heard. When a woman feels heard, she finds it easier to respond to a man's need to be free.If a man's periodic need to be free coincides with a woman's periodic need to be heard, the best solution is for the woman to be content to be heard by her friends instead.7.Emotional needs: men and women need to remember that the emotional needs of the opposite sex are not the same as their own. Providing our partners with the wrong kind of emotional need will not be very desired.Deep inside every man is a knight in shining armor looking for a damsel in distresswhowillloveandcoverhim,oftrust,consent,appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement.Deep within every woman is a damsel in distress looking for a knight in shiningarmorwhowillloveherandshowerherwithkindness, understanding, respect, devotion, validation, and comfort.Men should listen carefully to women to understand their needs, avoiding becoming angry or defensive. Women should have faith in men's abilities and do their best to meet their needs, avoiding trying to change or control them.8.Arguments:communicationbetweenpartnersshouldbelovingand respectful. Verbal attacks, on the other hand, are very destructive. It's often not so much what is said that causes the damage, but the tone of voice and the body language that accompanies it.Argumentsthriveonthefactthatmendon'tpayenoughattentionto women's feelings and that women critically disapprove of men.Either can be the initial trigger, as a man's inattention can cause a woman to get upset and express disapproval, and a woman's disapproval can cause a man to become defensive and stop listening to her feelings. 176Germain Decelles"